“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”
We have all heard the saying, and I agree with it whole heartedly—but how can someone try again if they haven’t tried at all? People often doubt themselves so much, and fear the possibility of failure so greatly, that they never even attempt whatever their task may be.
The problem is that you cannot overcome that self-doubt unless you do try and then keep trying until you feel successful. It’s not because someone succeeded that makes them seem so great, it’s the fact that they tried over and over again until they were successful. They didn’t give up. And that’s the point; the challenge is what makes the success so sweet.
Next, of course no one wants to feel like a failure—but failing is not something to be ashamed of; it proves you tried. After all, what is failure but a lesson learned in what not to do? The trick is to “try, try again.” Therein lies the beauty of success; you fail and you are humbled; you learn from failure and you are enlightened; you try again and are successful.
Now, that all being said, there is another version of that quote that makes me smile: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There is no point in being a damn fool about it.” W.C. Fields. Now you can’t quit trying new things, but you can stop pursuing something that isn’t making you happy. If you’re not happy, then don’t keep trying to make it your success story. Who cares if you don’t succeed at that? You’ve learned from it, given it your best shot, so now go find what you do care to be successful at. After all, how many flavors of ice cream did you have to taste before discovering that buttercream was your absolute fave? You have to try them all before you can know which ones definitely don’t work for you. The same goes with the opportunities in life—you never know which one will taste like buttercream.
But you can’t try again unless you try for the first time. If you never try, you can never succeed.